(Minghui.org) I have practiced Falun Dafa for 19 years. Master has done so much for me during those years. I completely changed from someone who was filled with attachments. Master empowered me so that I could break through one issue after another, and face one tribulation after another.
A Difficult Lady Obtained the Fa
I grew up in the countryside. Prior to my cultivation, I was a reckless and impulsive person, and I was always ready to fight. One time, I was waiting for the bus with my husband at a bus station, when a stranger attempted to flirt with me. I walked up to him and slapped his face twice, with no trace of fear. When my two neighbors fought, I joined the fight and beat the neighbor who was on the left side. Since I was a fierce person, no one in the neighborhood dared to mess with me. People said that I was the one who stuck her neck out for her friends.
My mother-in-law was also a tough woman. She preferred sons over daughters. Because my child is a girl, she always complained about that in front of me. When I badmouthed my in-laws in front of my husband, he didn’t like to hear it, so we ended up arguing. In fights, I was fiercer than him. Thus, every time we fought, I was the winner. Given my dominance, my husband often sulked. Gradually he developed depression and suffered from insomnia. He couldn’t do his work, and just sat there all day long, looking subdued. He would smash things when things didn’t go his way.
My father-in-law took him to see multiple doctors at different hospitals, but it was in vain. My relatives said that he had developed a mental illness. How could I live like that? They suggested that I divorce him. I thought that since he needed me to take care of him, if I were to leave him, he would become even worse. Even though I felt hopeless for my future, I couldn’t leave him.
When Master saw that I still had some kind nature left, he had me join Falun Dafa cultivation in 2003. At that time, I received Zhuan Falun, the main book of Falun Dafa, which made me understand that one’s life wasn’t meant for fighting to gain the upper hand, nor pursuing fame or self-interest, but rather to return to one’s original and true self.
After I began cultivating, I stopped fighting with others. I followed what Master said, and made peace with my neighbors. When it was time to buy coal in the winter, I wasn’t afraid of hardship or filth, but took the initiative to help my neighbors carry coal to their homes. In the countryside, whoever needed a hand, I would go and help them as soon as I could. My relatives and friends knew that I had become a better person since I began to practice Falun Gong. After many of my relatives, friends and neighbors saw the transformations in me, they decided to renounce their memberships from the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) to ensure their safety.
My family also became more harmonious. I followed what Master said, using the Fa to measure myself, and was understanding my husband’s difficulty. When my husband worked in a brick manufacturing factory, he worked so hard that it harmed his health. Thus, he couldn’t take on any hard labor. Seeing his situation, I was no longer so overbearing, but began to care for him. Gradually he recovered from his illness. He began to partner with his friends to do business. Therefore, our financial situation improved.
Because I practice Falun Dafa, my husband was also blessed. When he saw that I treated him better, stopped fighting with him, and left everything up to him to decide, he was much happier and often told people: “My wife became reasonable and kind.” I knew it wasn’t me who changed, rather, Dafa changed me from someone who was domineering and aggressive to someone who is kind.
Letting Go of Resentment for My Mother-In-Law
When my daughter was only one year old, we moved out from my in-law’s house. I often recalled, one scene after another, of how my mother-in-law treated me. She often scolded me, and marked everything in her house, including rice and noodles, to guard against me using them. So I no longer visited my mother-in-law’s house.
Since I began Dafa cultivation, I realized it was time to settle my grievance with her. I kept reminding and encouraging myself to follow what Master said and resolve my grievance with her. Through constantly purifying myself in the Fa, I let go of my resentment towards my mother-in-law.
One year, my mother-in-law’s kneecap was fractured and required surgery. She called me, hoping that I would take care of her. I thought: My mother-in-law has three sons (my husband is her middle son). Her oldest and youngest daughter-in-law lived in the same village, so why did she only ask me, who lived so far away, to look after her? Besides, since my husband went out for work, he needed me to cook for him.
Master said,
“I ask you to be even better than a good ordinary person. You will eventually become an extraordinary person, and will reach Consummation.” (Teachings at the Conference in Canada)
I cleansed my mind and talked with my husband about this. He was very happy and fully supported my wanting to take care of his mother.
I prepared some clothes and left home right away. After I went to her home, I started to help both her and my father-in-law, taking care of all their household chores. Seeing that I had come so far to take care of her, she was very happy and asked me, “Neither my oldest nor my youngest daughter-in-law came to visit me, how come you came all the way to take care of me?” I replied, “I’m a practitioner. I would not treat you like your other two daughter-in-laws.”
Later, my mother-in-law told everyone she ran into that I treated them very nicely since I began to practice Falun Dafa. During the fall harvest, I always brought my children to help them. Her neighbors all said that she had a great daughter-in-law who always came to help her. She was very pleased to hear that. In the past, my resentment towards my mother-in-law was like an iceberg, but it melted because of my Dafa cultivation.
Not Interfered With by Emotion When Saving Sentient Beings
When I told other people about Dafa in 2013, I was arrested by police and illegally sentenced to three years’ imprisonment. After I returned home, the atmosphere in the house was very tense. My husband didn’t allow me to clarify the facts to others, and my mother-in-law watched me so that I couldn’t get in touch with other practitioners. She gave me dirty looks all day long. Despite that, I treated them kindly and wasn’t moved by emotion.
One day, fellow practitioners and I visited the village where my mother-in-law lived. We went from household to household to clarify the truth. A few dozen of them decided to quit the CCP and its youth organizations. After I returned home, my in-laws were terribly upset with me and treated me as if I was an enemy. I asked for Master’s help, so that I would not be moved by their attitude. I had one thought in mind: “I did the most righteous thing; they are not allowed to interfere with me.” It seemed to be a big storm brewing, yet with Master’s help, nothing happened in the end.
However, from then on, wherever I went, my mother-in-law followed me. She even claimed that it was for my benefit. I said calmly to her, “Please take it easy. There is nothing wrong with me cultivating Dafa. If I didn’t, we wouldn’t have been living under the same roof. Dafa teaches me to treat everyone nicely and be considerate of others. When I go out to clarify the facts, it’s for saving sentient beings. When you interfere with me, it might create problems for you.” After she understood, she stopped watching me, and my cultivation environment also improved.
Witnessing the Power of Falun Dafa Through My Mother-in-Law
We were ready to go to my husband’s niece’s wedding in November 2019. But my mother-in-law had a terrible stomachache and couldn’t get out of bed for some days. She ended up lying in bed all day long moaning in pain. Even medication didn’t help. She told me that both her mother and two sisters died of cancer. She was afraid that she had the same illness. She then decided to cancel her plans to attend her granddaughter’s wedding.
I told my mother-in-law, “Don’t be scared. Look, I have practiced Dafa for so long, I have been very fit. Dafa is truly miraculous. You have seen that from me. If you could sincerely recite ‘Falun Dafa is wonderful! Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is wonderful!’ Master will help you stay safe.” She said, “Sure I will.”
The next morning, she told me she had recovered. She had recited the phrases over 70 times and had a sound sleep. She said, “I’m fine. All my pain is gone. I could cook for myself this morning. I think I can attend my granddaughter’s wedding.”
So many years have passed, and my mother-in-law often recites the phrases. She has been doing well. Dafa is truly miraculous to have helped someone in their 70s to be so healthy.
Master Saved My Husband
One time, my husband had a heart attack while driving a big truck on the highway. He called me, saying his heart was hurting and that he wasn’t sure what to do. I told him not to panic and asked him to sincerely recite the auspicious Dafa phrases, and he would be fine. He agreed.
After my husband pulled over, a police officer came over and then called an ambulance. Then the police officer called me. He said, “Your husband can’t speak now. Will you go to the hospital?” I told him, “My husband is fine, please rest assured.” At that time, I wasn’t scared. I asked Master to help him, so he would be safe and sound.
Then the police officers also drove to the hospital. At that time, my husband called his friend who lived near the hospital, to have him deal with his funeral matters. After the test results came back, he called me, saying that it turned out he was fine. He asked me to take it easy. He was just feeling a little weak. The next day when my husband came home, I told him that it was Master who saved him. Upon hearing this, he burned incense in front of Master’s portrait and kowtowed, feeling so grateful for Master’s saving grace.
After my family and relatives witnessed the power of Dafa, they all truly believe that Dafa is good. There have been some quite amazing things that have happened to my family⸺ too many to tell them all.
Epilogue
In this chaotic world, I was fortunate enough to be introduced to, and practice Dafa. It’s so great to have Master. Master helped practitioners let go of the attachments to fame and self-interest, to become good, better, and then very noble people. In the future, no matter how long the Fa-rectification process takes, I won’t be attached to time and will wholeheartedly do the three things. Even though I still have many shortcomings, I will listen to Master, cultivate well and return home with Master upon consummation.
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