(Minghui.org) I’m the only daughter in my family and have three younger brothers. I developed an introverted, withdrawn, and selfish personality from a young age, along with deep-rooted resentment. One summer, I often sat directly in front of a fan, which led to severe pain in my legs. I was later found to have rheumatoid arthritis and stubborn gynecological diseases. I tried everything—traditional Chinese medicine, Western medicine, acupuncture, and all kinds of folk remedies. I spent a lot of money and suffered a lot, yet nothing worked.
I began practicing Falun Dafa in early 1999. Master lifted me out of hell, cleansed me, and purified my body. Since then, all the illnesses that tormented me for half my life vanished completely. For the first time, I experienced the lightness and joy of a body free from illness.
Master gradually opened my wisdom after years of studying the Fa (teachings), hand-copying, and memorizing them. From the Fa, I enlightened that every attachment formed in a person’s thoughts over time is a real substance—a living entity. So is the mentality of resentment. It is made up of grievance and hatred. “Grievance” means complaining or being unwilling, while “hatred” includes anger, regret, resentment, and holding grudges. In fact, resentment stems from selfishness. Whenever something doesn’t go our way, we feel angry, complain, and fear being hurt. Isn’t that all based on selfishness?
I’d like to share a few examples of how I eliminated my resentment.
Learning How to Install Computer Systems
I was in my sixties, so it wasn’t easy to learn how to install computer systems, but I believed I could do it because I knew Master would help me. Seeing my wish, Master helped me find practitioner Fang to teach me. Fang was younger and had a full-time job, so her time was limited. At first, she taught me patiently and carefully, but for an elderly woman like me who never even touched a mouse, it was extremely difficult. Back then, installing a system had to be done manually, and every step had to be perfect. I didn’t know pinyin, and I couldn’t understand English, and every computer had different settings. I depended heavily on Fang and often complained when she seemed impatient or when I couldn’t grasp something.
One day, when I asked her again for help, she said sternly, “Why don’t you ask Master for help?” That one sentence struck me like a hammer. Yes, Master is right by my side! Why didn’t I think of that? No matter what we do to validate the Fa, Master always strengthens us.
I stopped complaining about her. Whenever I ran into problems, I first asked Master for help, then checked online forums for technical discussions and carefully studied the installation guides. I gradually became more skilled. The conflicts between us also disappeared. Whenever small conflicts arose, I looked inward and corrected myself. Under Master’s protection, we cooperated harmoniously and continued doing what we were supposed to do smoothly.
Removing Resentment Toward a Practitioner
The router we used to go online had to be configured step by step. After setting up elderly practitioner Ling’s router, I reminded her to keep the password safe, since she would need it again if the system had to be reinstalled. She later changed computers, and after reinstalling the system, she couldn’t connect to the router. When I asked for the password, she said she discarded it because she felt it was no longer needed. I didn’t get upset. I took the router home, reconfigured it, returned it to her, and again told her to save the password. She promised she would.
Later, for security reasons, the system had to be updated again. After reinstalling the computer, she couldn’t find the password. This time, I lost my temper. “What’s wrong with you? You tore it up last time, and now you lost it again. How can you be so careless? I’ve been running back and forth so many times—it’s such a hassle and a waste of time to set it all up again!”
Master said, “You must cultivate your inner self and not pursue things externally.” (Lecture One, Zhuan Falun) That woke me up instantly. Why did I only look at others instead of myself? Didn’t she lose it unintentionally? What was wrong with me? I fell into the old forces’ trap again. These thoughts were not truly mine—they were forced upon me by the old forces. As a practitioner, I shouldn’t harbor resentment or blame others. Nothing happens by chance. These situations happened to expose my hidden resentment, blame, and judgmental mindset, so that I can eliminate them completely.
Removing Resentment Toward My Husband
Because of my introverted and stubborn nature, once I made up my mind about something, I would insist on it no matter whether it was right or wrong. Whenever things didn’t go my way, I lost my temper and often ended up in cold wars with my husband. For example, my granddaughter was about to enter middle school, and her parents planned to send her to another city—they even bought a house there. Since her parents were busy, someone had to accompany her, and only my husband or I were available. One day, I brought it up. He wanted to go with me, but I didn’t want to. I said, “The Fa-rectification is nearing its end. In this limited time, we must focus on saving sentient beings, not on everyday matters.”
Because we couldn’t agree, we ended up arguing, and neither of us gave in. Finally, he said, “Even if it shortens my life, I have to help with the child. You’re too selfish, always busy with your Dafa things and not even willing to help your own grandchild.” That made me furious. My competitiveness, resentment, blame, and grievance all surfaced. I even started resenting my granddaughter’s other grandparents for not helping, since they rarely looked after the child. My heart was filled with indignation and I completely forgot that I was a practitioner.
I thought I had eliminated my resentment, but when a conflict arose, it resurfaced strongly. Was this the behavior of a true practitioner? I calmed down and reflected: my husband actually has many good qualities—he respects the elderly, loves children, is responsible, hardworking, kind, and always ready to help others. He has more strengths than I do. With this realization, I rectified myself through the Fa and changed my human notions. Master removed those bad substances from me. In that moment, I felt that all my resentment was dissolved. My heart was filled with compassion and peace, and gratitude replaced resentment.
Removing Complaints Toward My Daughter
With society in moral decline and the Chinese Communist Party’s long-term brainwashing, many young people have become distorted in their thinking. My daughter’s family of four is a good example—each person has their own phone, adults and kids alike. They’re on their phones while they eat, cook, walk—even when they use the bathroom—it’s like they’re possessed. After work, they don’t want to do anything: no washing dishes, no cleaning, no cooking. The house is always messy. Sometimes the two children fight, but the parents don’t care.
At first, I cleaned and organized their home. Over time, I became disgruntled, feeling wronged and even resentful. All these negative emotions were directed at my daughter. Yet no matter what I said or how upset I got, she remained indifferent and didn’t change. Then I thought: why doesn’t she listen to me? Maybe I shouldn’t interfere. Why am I so attached to their behavior? Isn’t that looking at things with a human heart? Practitioners should look inward. Only by looking within and cultivating ourselves can we truly improve. Once I realized that, my mood immediately lightened. Master opened my mind, and all those negative feelings disappeared instantly.
These are my limited understandings at my current level. Please kindly point out anything inappropriate.
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