(Minghui.org) I’ve practiced Falun Dafa for 20 years. My husband was initially supportive and thought that it was good to keep fit and that some people had their illnesses resolved. However, after the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) launched the persecution, he aligned with the Party and did not understand how evil the persecution was. He was determined to not allow me to practice and even destroyed my Falun Dafa cassette and other materials. Our relationship was strained and we seldom talked.
My work unit supervisor pressured me to renounce Falun Dafa. When I did not agree to it, my CCP membership was revoked. I was relieved, but my husband was anxious and felt a lot of pressure. He called our children and said he wanted to divorce me. I thought, “It’s fine to divorce. Then he won’t control me and he’ll be under less pressure.” I knew this information would spread around our county because we were well known in the local community.
When I thought about how my husband was willing to end our marriage of several decades out of his own interest, I felt sad and resigned that this was just human nature. I became more determined to practice Dafa and follow Master to reach the goal of cultivation. I told my husband, “We can divorce. I don’t want anything but my salary card. I can move to our other apartment.”
A practitioner gave me a flash drive which contained Master’s teachings. I read them earnestly. A sentence appeared in my mind, “Saving people is the top priority!” (“Fa Teaching at the 2007 New York Fa Conference,” Collected Teachings Given Around the World Volume VIII)
I suddenly understood that I should not divorce him—instead I must save him. My mother-in-law lived with us after she was discharged from the hospital because she had suffered a brain hemorrhage. She was bed-ridden. I told my husband, “We need to take care of the elderly. I cannot leave.” He was silent and did not mention divorce again.
My mother-in-law was paralyzed and could not take care of herself. She needed full-time help to eat, drink, use the toilet and to be bathed. I had to get up and turn her over several times at night to avoid bedsores. It was very hard. My husband often complained that his brothers and sisters didn’t take care of their mother, and he felt resentful, angry, and upset. I said, “Be considerate of your brothers and sisters. No matter what others do, we will take good care of the elderly, and we won’t have any regrets in the future.”
He was touched after hearing my words. I took care of my mother-in-law for five years until she passed away. I did not bargain with or complain about my husband’s brothers and sisters. My husband said, “It’s fortunate that you advised me. I have no regrets because we cared for my mother.”
My husband had a very bad temper and was arrogant. There were very few people he admired. He thought he knew a lot and was well-informed. He thought he had insights and a profound and correct understanding of problems. He rarely accepted other people’s opinions—instead he argued with others until they had nothing more to say.
He was unyielding, wrapped himself up tightly, and was always on guard against the topic of Falun Dafa. It was very difficult to change his understanding. He refused to read Dafa books or materials. But he still had traditional ideas and a kind heart. He saw the benefits of practicing Dafa from my words and deeds. In addition, I kept seizing opportunities and telling him the principles of Dafa when he was not on guard, so he gradually accepted it.
For example, my husband had three major surgeries and suffered a lot. I told him tactfully, “Don’t you think this is because you said bad things about Dafa?” He was displeased. He fell off his electric bike and broke his ribs and collarbone. His ribs almost penetrated his lungs. It was very dangerous, but he survived. I told him, “Master said, “When one person obtains the Fa, the whole family benefits” (“Teaching the Fa and Answering Questions in Jinan,” Explaining the Teachings of Zhuan Falun). Master is protecting you.” He was silent. He fell off his electric bike three times, but he was safe. I said, “Isn’t Master protecting you? Look, I fell 18 times, and nothing happened. Isn’t Master protecting me?” He didn’t say a word.
Friends who came to my home often praised me for my fair complexion and delicate skin, and said I didn’t look like someone who was almost 80 years old. They also said that they liked to come to my home because they felt comfortable. After the others left, he said, “Your skin indeed looks good.” I quickly seized the opportunity to tell him what Master said.
Master said,
“After a period of cultivation, our Falun Dafa students look quite different in appearance. Their skin becomes delicate and fair with rosy cheeks. For the elderly, there is a reduction in the number of wrinkles, even to the point of having very, very few left—this is quite a common phenomenon.” (Lecture One, Zhuan Falun)
I said, “Other people said they felt comfortable coming to our home. That’s because our home has a positive field.” This time he listened and didn’t interrupt me. In the past, he would have said impatiently that he didn’t want to listen.
He couldn’t sleep well, and complained of back pain, leg pain, swelling and pain here and there. I asked him to recite the two phrases “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”
He would say, “Go away, don’t tell me that.” I told him about the water crystallization experiment done by Japanese scientists, and showed him the report that if you say good things to water, the water crystals will become beautiful and nice, and if you say bad things to water, the water crystals will become scattered and ugly.
When he said, “I believe this.” I said, “If you recite ‘Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good,’ the cells in your body will also become better, the disease will be transformed in a good direction, and your body will gradually get better.” He didn’t say a word.
The COVID-19 pandemic came and many people contracted it. I silently told Master, “Master, I want to validate Dafa.” I was not infected. All 26 members of my family were infected. My husband was very sick and contracted it three times. He coughed out blood, had a fever, and almost died. I did not wear a face mask, but took care of him. I also delivered food and vegetables to my relatives and my children. I was not infected even after I talked to them face to face. My husband was puzzled and said it was amazing that I did not get infected.
I told him, “The severity of the symptoms of the disease in our family and among the people around us has a lot to do with the degree of their belief in Dafa. You are the most resistant and disrespectful to Dafa, so your symptoms were the most severe, and you suffered the most.” He didn’t say anything, but it was obvious that he was deeply touched. I also told him about Master’s teaching.
Master taught us,
“True Dafa disciples have higher energy and are able to destroy karma and germs; they are emissaries of salvation in these latter days, and bring their wisdom to bear upon saving people as they share truthful information related to our practice.” (“Stay Rational”)
I said, “That’s why true cultivators don’t get infected.” This time he seemed convinced. I then asked him to write a statement to confess his previous bad words and deeds about Master and Dafa, and declare that they were invalid and that he would correct his mistakes. I told him, “Master is merciful. He will forgive you and save you regardless of your past mistakes.” He solemnly signed his name, offered three incense sticks to Master, kowtowed to Master, and asked Master to forgive him.
He also agreed to withdraw from the CCP and the youth organizations he joined. I said, “When you can’t sleep, just recite the two phrases silently.” He said, “How do you know I don’t recite them?” Recently, he no longer complains about pain here and there, his legs are no longer swollen, and his sleep has improved. He said that his back pain was gone because he took calcium tablets.
I said, “The doctor said you had a herniated lumbar disc and needed surgery, otherwise it might lead to paralysis. You took some calcium tablets. Can it be cured just like that? Isn’t it because you confessed your mistakes to Master, and Master took care of you?” He looked pensive as I told him this.
My husband was a very picky person and found fault with everything. But no matter how picky he was or how angry he got, I was not moved and refused to argue with him about right or wrong, because Master told us practitioners to look within when we encounter problems, look inward, and to cultivate ourselves. I knew that he was helping me improve my xinxing. Every time there was a conflict, I thought about where I hadn’t done well, apologized and corrected it immediately. He was very satisfied. I also found that I had resentment, anger, and intolerance towards him, and I was determined to get rid of these bad thoughts. When I thanked him he asked why. I said, “You are helping me improve my xinxing!”
I was also arranged his diet according to his physical condition. He was very happy. I told him that losing his temper and scolding people generate karma, and illness is caused by karma. I also persuaded him and helped him calm down. His temper has become better and better, and he gets angry less and less. His serious face all day has disappeared. He’s in a good mood, so he often smiles and the atmosphere is peaceful.
Once when we chatted, I said, “To have a harmonious family, one must follow these words: don’t complain.” He agreed. So we set a rule: whoever complains, the other person will remind him or her immediately. He agreed. We both abide by this agreement, and the effect is very good. We respect each other. The children also feel the joy when they visit.
My husband said, “How did I find such a good wife like you? You are my spiritual partner and my support. I am really assimilated by you.” I said, “This is a gift from the divine. You are not assimilated by me, but by Dafa. It is Master who arranged for me to awaken you.” He smiled and was very happy. I saw that he was truly happy from the bottom of his heart.
My children also recognize Dafa and support me in my cultivation. They all benefit from Dafa. Last year, my eldest granddaughter graduated from college and looked for a job. A relative said that it was difficult to find a job if there is a Falun Dafa practitioner in the family. However, my granddaughter was hired by a state-owned enterprise. My son-in-law was promoted and my daughter was promoted to be chief physician.
There are many touching stories among my relatives and friends who have benefited from respecting Master and believing in Dafa. I will not go into those details here.
I sincerely hope that everyone can often recite “Falun Dafa is good” and be saved and blessed by Dafa.
(Selected Submission in Celebration of 2025 World Falun Dafa Day)