(Minghui.org) My daughter has practiced Falun Dafa with me since she was little. She’s excelled in school and at her job, and her upright behavior shows the beauty of Falun Dafa to our family and friends.

After my husband passed away in 2020, my daughter was less proactive in studying the Fa, and she gradually developed an ordinary person’s mindset. I had some concerns about her choosing a non-practitioner as a boyfriend. While I respected her choice, I was reluctant to accept it.

After my daughter married last year her cultivation state deteriorated, and I became increasingly anxious. I usually visited her twice a week, but we sometimes struggled to study just one lecture of Zhaun Falun together each week. I felt upset, and my mindset directly impacted her. We had dinner when her husband wasn’t home one day, and talked about the imortance of studying the Fa afterward.

She said, “I can only have a meal with you if we study the Fa. If I don’t study with you, I feel like I’m committing a huge sin.” I realized I had become impatient with her. I wasn’t paying enough attention to what was going on in her life. I was just insisting on studying the Fa. My daughter was now an adult, and I couldn’t place demands on her like I did when she was little. This situation exposed my impatience! Furthermore, I needed to get rid of my wanting to control and manage others. I quickly changed the subject, shifted my mindet, and my daughter calmed down.

After a few similar incidents, I gradually let go of my worry. When she and her husband argued, I was able to mediate in a kind manner. She started live streaming and selling dolls from home after work, which made her time even tighter. Her husband then quit his job, and they supported themselves by selling dolls. My daughter live streamed at night, and he packed the goods for shipping during the day—they were both incredibly busy. I felt bad as I watched my daughter drift further and further away from Dafa.

I looked for opportunities to discuss Dafa’s guiding principles with them. Soon afterward, she was willing to study the Fa with me, as after all, Dafa had taken root in her heart. She made four greeting cards and wrote congratulatory messages for Master Li Hongzhi every year. Her husband also burned incense to show his respect for Master.

My daughter called me on May 7 of this year at around 10 p.m., and said that she and her husband had a fight, and she asked me to come over. I was so worried that I forgot to put on my seatbelt while I drove, which showed how emotionally unstable I was. She was crying when I arrived. Her husband’s parents were there, but there was nothing they could do as the couple continued to argue.

I wanted to teach my son-in-law a lesson, so I said something harsh and brought my daughter home. I thought, “I’ll talk to them properly the next day when my son-in-law comes over.” Although I helped resolve the conflict the next day, I knew that my cultivation state wasn’t good. My deep attachment to my daughter had caused me to lose my composure. I apologized to them in my heart, and when they were leaving I told my son-in-law to go check on his mother so she wouldn’t worry.

I finally realized that my attachment to my daughter was a fundamental attachment I needed to eliminate. I could no longer be caught up in sentimentality and bring unnecessary harm to sentient beings. I’m not only her mother, but also a Dafa practitioner assisting Master in Fa-rectification. I believe my daughter is protected by Master, and my son-in-law also accepts Dafa and supports her. They cover my mortgage and indirectly provide a place for other practitioners to study the Fa.

Although my daughter doesn’t diligently study the Fa, whenever the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) tried to harass me, she did her best to resist the persecution. She firmly protected practitioners. When the time is right, Master will arrange for her to resume practicing. They have their own paths to walk in life, and as her mother, my only responsibility is to diligently cultivate in Dafa and care for them. Everything is arranged by Master! Why should I worry?

On World Falun Dafa Day, my daughter and son-in-law bought flowers and fruit for Master, burned incense, and bowed before his portrait to express their respect.

In the Fa teaching “A Wake-Up Call” Master points out the standard that veteran Dafa practitioners should achieve:

“To be able to regard anyone and everyone with compassion, to have love for all people, really isn’t something the average person can achieve. Harder still is to have a sense of compassion toward all living things in everything you do. But that is something practitioners of Dafa have to be able to do! Spiritual development is a process, and so what I described might not be doable at the moment for those who are newer to the practice; but with time, as you develop further in your spiritual practice, you must manage to do that. Veterans of the practice need to do this now. This is something dictated by your historic mission, and it is something that every Dafa practitioner who aspires to spiritual greatness must achieve in their practice!” (“A Wake-Up Call”)

I still have a long way to go to meet Master’s requirements. I’ve realized that to achieve a state of compassion, I must consider everything from the other person’s perspective and transcend the selfish nature of the old universe. Only then can I achieve a state of selflessness!

With a clearer understanding of the Fa principles, my capacity to exhibit compassion has expanded, and my dimensional field has become brighter. I’ve become more rational in dealing with things, and not as easily deceived or influenced by superficial falsehoods.

July 11 was my daughter’s birthday. I bought a cake and prepared dinner for her and my son-in-law. As soon as they came, I noticed they looked upset. I asked what was wrong, and my son-in-law replied, “Go tell Mom about your troubles!” She just had a heated argument with her mother-in-law, and he was furious.

I was thinking that life is hard enough, with birth, old age, sickness, and death. And on top of that there are conflicts of interest, contradiction, and competitiveness ... Life is so bitter! Compassion welled up in me. After they finished airing their complaints, I calmly offered some words of comfort. Eventually, their tempers subsided, and my son-in-law and I sang Happy Birthday to my daughter. I knew that compassion had replaced the sentimental love I had for my daughter.

My daughter called me again on the afternoon of September 14. She was crying, and asked me to help her bring her things home. I went over and saw her two suitcases overflowing with stuff, and the whole place was a mess. She pulled me into the house and said, “He told me to leave and cursed our family. Should I divorce him? Do I have to take all my stuff with me?” Seeing she was so upset, I said, “Wait, I’ll go out and talk to him.”

I went outside, grabbed a small stool, and sat across from my son-in-law. With a smile, I asked, “What’s going on?” He kept saying, “Take her back! I can’t stand her! Take her back! Take her back!” It turned out that there had been another conflict between his mother and my daughter. Neither one of them would give in.

I told my son-in-law, “Your mother really loves you and is afraid that you’ll be wronged. The other day your mother said she would never again have any contact with my daughter. In fact, this situaiton is really not a big deal. Everything will be fine. But if you really want to break up, it’s hard to find a girl like my daughter who has a stable job and is responsible! If your mother finds you another girl, there will still be conflicts. What will you do then?

“I treat you like a son. You two have known each other for eight years, and have a good relationship. You are used to each other. It’s not a matter of principle. You don’t have a job now. If you really break up, what will your mother do? If you continue like this, both of you will suffer. I treat you as my own son. Besides, neither of you can live without the other. You two can’t divorce! If you separate today you’ll take her back in a few days. Let’s not go down that path. You’re a devoted and sensible man. My daughter has a sharp tongue but a soft heart. You two usually treat each other well. I sincerely wish you two a lifetime of companionship!”

My son-in-law finally let down his guard and said, “There’s nothing wrong between us. We’re fine. We just always argue because of my mom.” My daughter cried and exclaimed, “You have to apologize to my mom! You said so many bad things about our family. I recorded it all. You’re so scary! It’s like you’re going crazy.”

I interjected, “No, no. No one fights well, and no one curses well. As a mother, I can’t dwell on those things. You should apologize to her and try to comfort her. You’re a man, so be considerate of her.” My son-in-law walked over, hugged my daughter, and said, “I’m sorry. Don’t be angry. I was wrong. Let’s go out for dinner with Mom later.” The storm was over.

The Mid-Autumn Festival was September 17th. When my daughter and her husband came over, I said, “It’s almost time for dinner, let’s burn incense to Master first!” They each lit a stick of incense, and following my daughter’s lead, my son-in-law bowed down to Master’s portrait. Before sitting down to eat, my daughter said, “Mom, he wants to apologize to you.” I replied, “No, no. I’m not upset. There’s no need to apologize!” My son-in-law said sheepishly, “Mom, I’m sorry!”

Master has painstakingly arranged our cultivation paths, step by step, according to the karmic connections between people. He teaches us to resolve grudges with compassion and elevate our xinxing in the process.

Thank you, Master, for your compassion and salvation!