(Minghui.org) My sister-in-law is three years younger than me, and I believe that we have a special, predestined relationship. When I was dating my now husband, she left her hometown for some reason and came to live with me in my dormitory. After I got married, she moved in with us. My husband’s family did not help us much with our marriage. We had only one double bed and a dining table at the time. The three of us shared the bed.
I was 22 years old at the time. Young and narrow-minded, I felt that my sister-in-law was interfering with our life, and I was reluctant to have her living with us. However, I felt deeply for my husband, and knew that she was helpless. I endured it without saying a word, but I constantly felt upset, helpless, and depressed, so I acted indifferently towards her. My husband later contacted some relatives, paid some money, and helped her register as a city resident. He also found her a job, and she moved into the company dormitory when she started dating.
My complicated family situation kept worrying me. I didn’t like to openly confront anyone, and was sulking for several years after I got married. The prolonged mental stress affected my heath. My heart began to create problems. It was because of my heart problems that I started practicing Falun Dafa when I was 28 years old.
I started reading Zhuan Falun, kept in mind Master’s teachings of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, and began to forgive everyone I felt had wronged me in the past. I started changing my previously formed notions about others and treating people with kindness and sincerity.
I became much nicer to my sister-in-law, and often felt guilty when I thought of my indifference toward her before. I gave her a copy of Zhuan Falun, hoping that she would also start cultivating in Falun Dafa. However, she was interfered with, and told me she had headaches whenever she started reading the Dafa book, so she missed out on an opportunity to cultivate in Dafa. However, she still believed what I said, and threw away the worshiping tablets for foxes, weasels, ghosts, and snakes that she had at home.
Falun Dafa gained widespread popularity, and more and more people started cultivating in Dafa. The Chinese Communist Party (CCP) later launched the unprecedented persecution. They fabricated rumors to slander Dafa and began to persecute practitioners. People were poisoned by the lies. Furthermore, I was sentenced to prison. My sister-in-law was confused under the overwhelming pressure. She blamed Falun Dafa and practitioners for the persecution and began to have negative thoughts about the practice.
Since I was imprisoned, my husband asked her to help take care of our child, and asked her husband to help with my husband’s business. My sister-in-law and her husband were laid off and had no job at the time. They came to help and moved into my house. During that time, my parents-in-law were also living in my house because my father-in-law was ill and needed care. The house became crowded, so my husband bought a new house, and my husband, my son, and his parents moved into the new house. He once came to visit me, and suggested selling our old house to my sister-in-law for half of its market price, about 200,000 yuan. I thought that I was a Falun Dafa practitioner, and they were helping us, so I agreed with my husband.
After I was released from prison, my husband told me that my sister-in-law refused to pay the money for the house, and he had fallen out with her. He asked me to go to her and ask for the money. At that time, my husband’s business had stalled, and he was heavily in debt. I went to my sisters-in-law to ask for the money. However, she said that her brother agreed to give her the house and did not ask for the money, and that the house wasn’t worth that much. She also said that my husband had not paid their salary, and told me that my husband’s money was controlled by his mistress. She told me many shocking things that I was not aware of.
I felt very sad hearing all of this, but I kept in mind that I was a Falun Dafa practitioner. Enduring the pain in my mind, I let her finish talking, then I told her, “Ok! I know now.” I left showing a seemingly calm appearance. As soon as I got home, I burst into tears. I felt immense pain in my heart. My husband had a mistress and had her handle our elderly parents, our son, and the company’s finances. Our family eventually fell into such a mess and experienced heavy debts. My sister-in-law’s words hurt me badly, much worse than losing the house. I thought, “I’ll never ask her for the money again. I don’t want to hear all this again. It’s painful.”
I was heartbroken facing the emotional and financial dilemmas after the imprisonment. But I knew I would overcome the tribulations because I have the preciousness of Falun Dafa in mind. I kept studying the Fa, continued discarding attachments to fame, wealth, and emotion, and kept improving my xinxing. I acted following Master’s guidance. I thought, “Life is like a show, and I should play my role in it well. As a Falun Dafa practitioner, I should strive to be a good person, act based on Dafa’s standards, and cultivate compassion. All sentient beings suffer in this delusional world and none of their lives are easy. My husband and I have a predestined relationship. I should treat him well and fulfill my responsibilities as a wife. I believe this is what Dafa requires of me.”
I conducted myself based on the Fa, and my husband changed. He saw the beauty of Dafa, believed in Dafa, and supported Dafa. He received blessings as a result. Soon, our family’s business flourished, and gradually, all the troubles were transformed for the better and rectified in Dafa.
I believed that my sister-in-law also had a predestined relation with me, and that I should treat her well. I let go of my attachment to the house and the money and stopped thinking about who was right or wrong. I thought, “Everyone considered things from their own perspective, and they all talk giving their own reasons. I should just treat them as if nothing had happened.” I also let go of the pain she brought to me with her words, and considered that she was helping me improve. I felt that I should thank her for the opportunity to improve instead of blaming her. I decided to handle the situation well. Considering her taking care of my son for three years and her husband helping our business for three years, I thought that these things were not easy and I should be grateful for them. After I sorted through all these issues I treated her better and better.
My sister-in-law was in poor health, and was often hospitalized. Every time I heard about her being hospitalized I visited her and helped her financially. Her family wasn’t in a good financial situation, so I also helped by giving her child 1,000 yuan in a red-envelope every Chinese New Year until he grew up and started working.
A thought later crossed my mind, “She might still think that we owed them, and perhaps, we do owe them. I should consider things from her perspective and be considerate of her.” Whenever opportunities arose, I gave her money for various reasons, sometimes thousands or even tens of thousands of yuan. I thought, “If you think that we owe you, I’ll quietly make up for it.” Over time, my sister-in-law began to appreciate my kindness and accept me more as her sister-in-law. I also often talked with my husband based on existing reasons, and he gradually softened his attitude toward her.
Seeing my sister-in-law always ill, I often told her that reciting “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” would help her. However, she kept ignoring my words.
My husband also said to her, “You suffer from illness every day. Why don’t you recite ‘Falun Dafa is good’? Look at how well your sister-in-law is! Without her, could our family survive? Without her, would I get along with you?” My husband often had conflicts with his siblings. He had a bad temper and often considered his siblings unfavorably. I always calmed him down when conflicts arose, and helped to settle the situation.
My sister-in-law was hospitalized again last year. She had cardiovascular and cerebrovascular problems. The doctor told her that she needed a coronary stent, but she was too weak to handle the surgery. She was distressed. Her family struggled financially and she was constantly ill. She was often bedridden and needed a lot of money to see the doctors and buy medicine. In this situation, I told her again, “Give it a try! Falun Dafa and Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” She told me that she was reciting the words every day.
A few days later, I asked her if she was still reciting the Dafa words. She told me she was. I then suggested she read the Dafa books. She agreed, and started studying the Fa and doing the exercises every day. Her faith in Dafa grew stronger, and she burned the tablets she used for worshiping those spirits at home.
My sister-in-law is now seriously cultivating in Falun Dafa and often recommends Zhuan Falun to her friends. She has a good enlightenment quality, and started to cultivate her character soon after she began reading the Dafa books. She stopped being angry with her husband and worked on getting along with her mother-in-law. Whenever she encounters situations, she immediately thinks, “I’m practicing Dafa now.” She conducts herself as a cultivator.
My sister-in-law’s complexion became rosy. In the past, she had to sit down to rest after a few steps, but she can now walk long distances without feeling tired. She can also see some of the phenomena described in Zhuan Falun concerning the opening of the celestial eye. And she sees things in other dimensions, including Buddhas and Bodhisattvas. Since learning Falun Dafa, my sister-in-law has stopped watching short videos on TikTok, and instead studies the Fa and does the exercises. My sister-in-law now truly cultivates in Falun Dafa.
Thank you, Master, for your compassionate salvation!
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