(Minghui.org) I am 62 years old and have practiced Falun Dafa (also known as Falun Gong) for 30 years. Dafa completely transformed me from a resentful woman into someone broad-minded, not attached to personal gain, and able to consider others’ needs. I am deeply grateful for Master Li’s compassionate salvation. Here, I will share my experiences of truly cultivating myself within my family environment.
From a Resentful Woman to a Kind Daughter-in-Law
More than 30 years ago, on the day I was about to give birth, the village was distributing land, and my family asked me to stay home and watch the store. When labor pains began, I went to the fields to find my husband and asked him to take me to the hospital. He asked my mother-in-law to go with me, but she refused and said some unhelpful things. In the end, my sister-in-law went with me, but after I gave birth, she disappeared as well. I felt resentful toward my mother-in-law for not helping me when I needed her most.
My mother-in-law was known in the village for berating people, and my father-in-law would also use harsh words whenever he was upset. When this happened, it made me so angry that I felt weak, my blood pressure dropped, and I was in a daze. I aired my grievances to my parents. After hearing my story, my aunt sighed and said, “You could write a book about this.”
In the fall of 1995, I returned to my parents’ home. My mother said, “Don’t get upset anymore. Try learning Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.” My mind buzzed, thinking, “Is there is such a thing in this world?” At that moment, it felt as if a window had opened in my heart, illuminating everything. I felt I had been waiting my whole life for these three words. From then on, I began studying Falun Dafa’s teachings and doing the exercises.
After reading the Dafa books, I let go of resentment toward my in-laws. I began to get along with them and consider them in everything I did. Our whole family became harmonious, and others in the village admired us. I truly thank Master. Falun Dafa changed me from being a resentful woman into someone who thinks of others.
After July 20, when Jiang Zemin, former Chinese Communist Party (CCP) leader, initiated the persecution of Falun Dafa, the police often came to harass me. Each time, my mother-in-law drove them away and refused to let them persecute me. A young officer once said, “Your relationship is really good. I’ve never seen anything like it.”
My husband and son also supported my practice. They helped by transporting Dafa materials and calendars, and assisting other practitioners who had been displaced by providing them with food and shelter. Since we had extra rooms, we let them stay in our home. When I went out every day to clarify the truth and help people quit the CCP, they supported me by taking care of the household chores so I would have time to do the three things practitioners should do.
Resolving Grievances
My husband is the eldest of two sons and two daughters. We built the four rooms we lived in. My in-laws gave us land, some stones and bricks, and a little money. We borrowed 8,000 yuan to finish the house and later repaid it through frugal living. My younger brother-in-law lived separately and received the same support from my mother-in-law. In 2011, our village land was expropriated, and we were compensated. My mother-in-law’s property was also taken, and she was compensated.
Later, my father-in-law became paralyzed, and my husband and his brother helped take care of him. Last spring, my sister-in-law said, “Mom has taken care of Dad for three years and is exhausted. Let’s send him to a nursing home.” My brother-in-law agreed and suggested they discuss it with me.
My husband said, “If we’re sending him, then send him. They have the money. What’s to discuss?” However, my mother-in-law claimed she had no money. It turned out she had secretly given my sister-in-law and her husband over 700,000 yuan from the land compensation, leaving us to pay for the nursing home. My husband told his sister, “Since you have shared in the inheritance, you should also share the responsibility of caring for Dad.” My mother-in-law cried and argued that her daughters had no obligation to care for their elderly parents.
As a result, no one volunteered to care for the elderly couple in their 80s. We received no money, yet still had to care for them. I felt unfairly treated and complained to other practitioners. I failed to look inward and judged the situation with ordinary thinking. Through calmly studying the Fa and discussions with fellow practitioners, I let go of resentment toward my in-laws. I also came to understand that relationships between people are based on karmic connections and that I must hold myself to the standards of a cultivator.
After discussing it with my husband, we brought his father to our home to ease his mother’s burden. We treated him kindly. When his condition worsened, we paid for his burial clothes and invited my sister-in-law to help choose the best ones. I told my husband, “Let’s not argue with them. We’ll just do what we should. They can keep the money—we will take care of the elderly.”
People in the village said that Falun Gong practitioners are truly different, as we don’t fight or compete. One person said, “They didn’t get any money, yet they still supported the elderly.”
Some even said it was unfair. I replied, “I practice Falun Gong, so I follow my Master’s teachings. I treat everyone kindly and don’t value money so much.”
Conclusion
I cultivate in a complex family environment, hold myself to the principles of Falun Dafa, and resolve karmic debts accumulated over lifetimes. I am grateful to Master for his compassionate salvation, for lifting me out of hell, purifying me, and guiding me on the path back to my true self. In the limited time remaining, I will continue to do the three things well, cultivate myself diligently, and will strive to live up to Master’s grace.
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