(Minghui.org) My daughter lives and works in another city. She visits us when she can. She recently took a day off from work to drive her father to the hospital for a consultation. She was unfamiliar with the route and took a wrong turn, which delayed our return. I complained a little but I didn’t realize I'd hurt her feelings.
She later told me I made her cry, “I’m an adult, you shouldn’t treat me like a child. We all make mistakes.” She got her things and left.
When I measured myself with the Fa I realized that I often blame others when things don’t go well, and I show off. I also realized that my attitude and behavior is often a burden to my daughter, and undermined her confidence. I expect her to always listen to me, and accept my views. I don’t respect her feelings.
Everyone has their own destiny! If one always wants to take the lead in arranging other people’s lives, this is actually a selfish characteristic of the old universe (selfish and self-centered). The new universe is for others (selfless and compassionate).
After I identified my attachments I knew I needed to let them go. I kept at it and eventually felt them fade away. I felt peaceful and the relationship with my daughter improved.
When I’m clarifying the truth about the persecution or promoting Shen Yun, if I encounter people who refuse to listen or reject what I say, I have negative thoughts and my righteous thoughts fade. Things changed after I focused on improving my xinxing and eliminating my attachments.
When I phoned people in China recently I talked to a student. After we exchanged greetings, she hung up. I called again and she asked me to stop calling her. I didn’t give up and she eventually listened to me. I told her I wanted her to have a bright future and I told her the truth about the persecution of Dafa. I offered to help her quit the Chinese Communist Party and its related organizations. She told me she was a member of the Youth League and asked me to help her quit. She thanked me for telling her the truth. I was moved because she understood the truth, and chose a good future!
When I helped sell Shen Yun tickets last year a friend suggested that I visit a local village chief. He wanted to purchase two high-priced tickets. When I got home I booked the tickets for him online. That night, my friend told me the chief’s wife wanted low-price tickets. My fear of trouble surfaced, and I was worried.
When I realized that worry was also an attachment, I let it go and focused on studying the Fa and sending forth righteous thoughts. When one is filled with the Fa and full of righteous thoughts, that is the state of a divine being. When one assimilates with the Fa, its power will manifest.
A few days later, when I visited the village chief and his wife, she gave me a warm smile and did not mention changing the tickets.
This is my understanding at my current level; please kindly point out anything inappropriate.
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